WHAT CAN I DO FOR YOU?
What I can do for you depends very much on what you are prepared to do for yourself.
Both the school of therapy in which I work, and my own particular approach to it, really do call for a deep commitment, not just to change, but to exploring and reflecting upon what it is that needs to change. What are the sedimented values and beliefs that are creating difficulties for you? How much responsibility are you ready to take for the choices that have brought you to this point in life? Are you ready and willing to move beyond the immediate need for a "quick fix" in order to examine the roots and origins of your issues?
So before we look at what I can do for you, here are a few things I can't do for you.
I can't tell you what is "wrong" with you - largely because I reject most of the objective diagnostic criteria that might stigmatise and pathologise you and reduce you to set of symptoms rather than a human being.
I can't tell you what you "should" or "shouldn't" do in any given situation. The only person capable of doing that is yourself - although I can certainly facilitate the process by listening, supporting and containing you in your struggle to make sense of your issues and difficulties with a view to resolving them.
I can't offer you specific advice - to do that would be to take away the reponsibility and freedom you have to choose your own path in life. What I can, and will do, however, is to work with you to enable you to clarify your options and to decide which, if any of them to choose.
So what can I do for you? Well therapy typically begins as a process of exploration. This will help me get to know you and understand the issue or issues that you are looking to address. Once we establish rapport and trust (the foundations of any effective therapeutic relationship) we will work together to help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and the concerns that brought you into the work. This understanding will help you identify connections and reveal patterns that you may not have seen before, and these new insights will likely lead you to identify changes you wish to make while I support and stay with you until you are ready to make them.
Here are a few of the issues I have worked with and am competent and confident enough to work with again. It isn't an exhaustive list of "the thousand natural shocks that flesh is heir to" (Hamlet, Act III, Scene I) but it's close. Most of the issues that affect us today can be bracketed under one or more of these headings. Click the links to find out more about my approach to them.
“In my early professional years I was asking the question: How can I treat, or cure, or change this person? Now I would phrase the question in
this way: How can I
provide a relationship which this person may
use for his own