The end of a marriage or partnership can be a relief to some people, but it can also be an extremely stressful process.
Even the partner who chooses to leave (on the rare occasions when it's that simple) may experience a wide range of painful emotions such as grief, guilt, anger, confusion, fear, shame, and anxiety. If children are involved, the stress level is likely to be even higher - not to mention the wider issues of finance, property, employment and housing.
In terms of therapy there are two options:
The first is a situation in which both partners come to see me as a couple.
It is a myth that all relationship counselling is about repairing a failing relationship. Sometimes it is about finding a way to recognise the failure and to move on from it together. This often allows couples to achieve the dissolution of the partnership n a healthy, constructive fashion free of recrimination or anger.
The second option is for one or other of the separating or separated partners to work with me individually.
Many people perceive divorce or separation as a personal failure. It is easy, in those circumstances to experience the symptoms of depression, or worthlessness. I can help you to work through those feelings, make sense of the end of the marriage, and obtain a new perspective. In the process you may learn more about what yourequire from a relationship and how to make different choices next time (or indeed to decide whether or not you want or are prepared for a "next time". Like any kind of therapuy, ,this may enable you to discover more about your own nature and personal characteristics and issues.